Okay, so you know you’re the owner of basically the best brain since Einstein roamed the earth (well, duh) but have you ever wondered whether intellectual intelligence is enough? In today’s day and age, it seems as though the ability understand complex sums or remember every line from Shakespeare’s plays just aren’t enough to rival the best of the best. In fact, it’s those who are both intellectually intelligent and emotional intelligence that prove to be most successful. Yet, how do you know whether you are highly emotionally intelligent or not? Well, check out these signs that you are highly intelligent…
You think before you speak
There are some people in this world who don’t think before they speak – and this normally ends up in disaster for those involved (and maybe a few tears). However, those that are emotionally intelligent will think before they speak, take a pause, and really think about the words that are coming out of their mouths. This helps you refrain from making decisions that can not only hurt yourself but also hurt others.
You are emotionally aware of yourself
One of the best ways to know if you are emotionally intelligent or not is to know whether you are emotionally aware of yourself or not. Do you know what your strengths and weaknesses are in terms of your emotions? Does your mood affect your decisions and your thought process? If you spend time on evaluating your own emotions and how they affect your life, you are emotionally aware (yay!)
You try to control your thoughts
Let’s be honest, sometimes we have no control over how certain situations or thought can affect us emotionally – but we do have control over how we react to these situations. If you let your emotions get the better of you and you strike out at people for the sake of it, or you spend your days wallowing on your own, you are allowing your thoughts to control you. If you can control your thoughts, you are more emotionally intelligent.
You benefit from criticism
Nobody likes being told that they are doing something wrong – but emotionally intelligent take this criticism on the chin, and allow it to benefit their lives, and allows them to work on themselves. Yet, those who are less emotionally intelligent will see this criticism as a personal dig and allow it to take over their lives in a negative way.
You are more empathetic
If you find yourself in a situation where someone you love is crying in public do you, A: Awkwardly look anywhere but the crying person because they are embarrassing you, or B: Wonder why they are crying and think of how they might be feeling? If you chose option B, you are much more empathetic. When you move away from judging people and start to become more empathetic, you will show your emotional intelligence to yourself and the rest of world.
You are able to apologize
For most of us, apologizing doesn’t come naturally – especially if you don’t think you’ve done anything from. Yet, an inability to apologize to those you have wronged shows that you are emotionally unintelligent. Those who have the courage and the strength to say they’re sorry will show that you have humility and will allow you to connect with others on a deeper level.
You are able to both forgive and forget
Throughout our lives, people will always annoy us or wrong us – because that’s just a way of life. Yet, how you handle this situation will show a lot about your character and your emotional intelligence. If you have the strength to both forgive and forget what someone has done to you, you will show that you have high emotional intelligence.
How did you fare? Are you emotionally intelligent?