While some people are just born with an ability to overcome obstacles and take it in their stride, the majority of people have to learn these traits. And some never do. Being mentally strong is the number one way to take life head-on and come out successful on the other side. It’s a state of being whereby tough situations don’t make or break us. The ability to get up and move on is the number one characteristic of being mentally strong. Here’s what mentally strong people avoid, and you can too.
They avoid their own pity party
Feeling sorry for themselves is something that they avoid entirely. They still feel the sting of failure and yes, it hurts, but dwelling on the negative only makes them feel worse. They brush off the failure and carry on moving forward. Mentally strong people know that life is rarely fair and they accept it. They take control of their power and don’t hand it over to someone else because they are in control of their own actions and emotions. This is where they draw their strength from, themselves.
Accept what they can’t control
Very rarely will a mentally strong person complain about things that they have no control over. Whether it’s the traffic, the queue at the grocery store or even a late parcel delivery, the mentally strong see these things and take control of the situation through their ability to control themselves and their emotions. The same applies to change. Changes happen in our lives that we have no control over, but the mentally strong see these changes as a challenge that they can conquer.
They take the calculated risks
And they accept their outcomes, whatever they may be. If nobody ever took the calculated risk, this world would be a very different place. Let’s be clear that we aren’t talking about foolishly jumping into risky situations without the research behind the decision. Mentally strong people will analyze and weigh out the risks to the potential benefits before making decisions. Along with this, they are not scared to displease others with their choices. Mentally strong people are not people-pleasers by any means, but they also don’t go out of their way to make others unhappy through unfair practices.
They learn from past mistakes
They use their life experiences, channeling the lessons to make them stronger. Dwelling on the past is the number one way to never move towards the future. Making mistakes is a part of life, but making the same mistakes, again and again, while hoping for a different outcome is not what mentally strong people do. They take full responsibility for their actions, self-reflect on them, and learn from them to never do it again.
They don’t have a sense of entitlement
They know that the world doesn’t owe anybody anything, especially themselves. They know that whatever they want, they have to work hard for it. Regardless of their education or upbringing, a mentally strong person understands how important it is to start from the bottom and how rewarding it is to eventually get to the top. They don’t resent other people for their success because they know that success can only come from hard work. They can genuinely feel excitement for another person’s triumphs.
Above all else, mentally strong people know that all of their successes will take time.